My Approach:

"It’s a relationship”

Many people are reluctant to start therapy because of the misconception that you’ll be forced to talk about things you don’t feel ready to, or perhaps secrets you have kept inside or to re-open difficult past experiences you’d rather put behind you. This is the opposite of what good therapy is about.

Therapy can only work when it is collaborative. You are in control of how much you choose to say and when. My job is to be there alongside you however long it takes, and to look at your life together, through a new lens.

It’s particularly common in the earlier stages of therapy, or after disclosing something that feels tough or shameful, that clients worry they will be judged and now disliked, or even minimised as if the things they experience are “no big deal”.

What I would say to this is that I have worked with people from vastly different worlds, with huge variations of wellness and illness, severe distress, milder struggles, identity issues, abuse, self-harm, sexual issues, infidelity, trauma, problematic family life, interpersonal problems, pain, health problems, addictions, eating disorders, out of control eating. The list is endless. I can assure you, that you are coming to see someone who is compassionate, understanding and open to all that you bring.

As human beings we are so complex, and we do things that can be really hard to understand intellectually, but we do them. We are then left to live as best we can with the things that happen to us, as well as the way we are to others.

Therapy is a chance to examine all of these aspects of your life and give you the tools to heal, accept or change things.